you desire to open up fully during intimacy but your body contracts, it hurts, brings no pleasure and you close off to the man you are with completely - deep down you fear being left, abandoned, rejected. You struggle to relax into real trust and true emotional and physical safety with a man. 

you have never really felt nourished - you had a hard time during your childhood, never feeling like you belong or can trust anyone - you have felt burdened by your family - your heart has hardened as a result - but now you crave to come home and stop searching for belonging. 

you are the strong, independent woman that values her freedom, a tendency to over-function, control or try and hold everything together - but you deeply desire to exhale, return to softness, intimacy and passionate love with a man that can lead (without loosing your fire and fierceness). 

you have done therapy or personal growth work, understand your wounds intellectually - but feel that the core of your patterns or wound hasn't shifted - you're ready to no longer just talk about it, but dig deeper and heal somatically and psychologically.  

you have a tendency of over giving, mothering, saving, care taking or multi tasking for others - taking responsibility for them (instead of yourself) in order to receive recognition and feel worthy of love. While you over-give, you barely feel seen, heard, chosen or really cherished - only empty.

This journey is made for you if...

you know the relationship you are in has more to offer - you aren't ready to let go and want to explore into new ways of relating, communicating and loving each other. No longer feeling like housemates, passive co-workers, friends - inviting back authentic aliveness for both of you.

you sense that the way you learned to be feminine, to relate to men, to love and receive has come from your mother (and her tendencies, wounds, projections) of herself or towards your father/ men in the world - you sense that you get relearn and healthily experience your true mature feminine expression. (not built on frameworks or what you've seen other woman do)

you want to show up in fullness, be transparent with your emotions and reveal all of your feminine vitality, but instead end up making yourself small, withdrawing or shape-shift in order to feel like you belong - hiding your true nature.

you want to trust the masculine, build a life together, trust that there are men that are integral, committed and clear - yet you have moments of resentment, disappointment or mistrust towards men - that hold you back from engaging. (Secretly you carry a long list of expectations about how a man should love you before you can relax) 

you know there is pain and trauma you still carry from childhood - that shapes your life and love-life until today - from parents who were unavailable, critical, overwhelmed or unable to give the love you needed.

you desire your masculine partner to show up with more vulnerability - but avoid vulnerability yourself - you long for repair, understanding and real connection - you want to break through the never ending cycles of conflict, rupture and resentment towards each other. 

you long to attract a mature, capable man by your side, since you have a history of attracting unavailable men, men that can't choose you OR men that are actually looking for a mother replacement - you notice you have a hard time discerning because your ache for love clouds your judgement.

you have a habit of jumping from one relationship to another, or have casual sex, or simply cannot commit to a man - you have contemplated about giving up men or dating up all together. 

you over-function, you have tendency to be hypervigilant - because you have difficulty trusting & feel like you can only receive what you want if you control the outcome or his actions - mothering, controlling, emasculating, managing life have become a habit of yours and you yearn to let go. 

you have a big, sensitive heart and technically capacity to love very deeply - but every time it comes close - you get anxious, you loose yourself, your fear takes over - sabotaging real connection.

no longer waits to be chosen, but walks as the chosen - by God, by herself. She is no longer a girl hoping to be chosen, but a woman who has been chosen.

nourishes her relationship with patience, devotion, and clarity - becoming a devoted woman to what matters, not just a mirror to what’s wounded. She holds the vision, she protects what is right, she follows her divine assignment - even in the face of adversity or challenge. 

attracts a man of integrity, commitment and love - no longer confuses intensity with intimacy or "chemistry" with love - and stops repeating cycles of anxiety, fantasy, or “almost” love with men. No longer being the woman that 'teaches' men or only initiates and can discern clearly between a mature man or a boy in a costume of a king. 

knows her worth and belonging through Gods love, and lives from wholeness, biologically and emotionally anchored in her feminine design - not hustle, not scarcity, not self-doubt. Instead feeling fully at home in her softness, fierceness and fire. 

feels safe in her feminine heart and body - can stay anchored in emotional steadiness- no longer performing strength or collapsing into need. Opens her heart without the collapse, the walls, the tests, or perfect conditions. 

And you deeply desire to become the woman who...

chooses self- responsibility, clear communication over blame and judgement or collapse - transforms disappointment into possibility and deeper devotion.

receives love without guilt or over-giving, because her worth is no longer up for negotiation. She becomes available to receive a man of truth, care, protection and provision and evokes the best in her partner - no longer playing the mother/matryr. 

the masculine feels safe with, respected by, encouraged, trusted and loved by - becoming the woman a man wants to claim and love for life. (not from performance, but true embodiment)

can speak truth, set boundaries even when it’s inconvenient, and no longer silences her knowing just to keep the peace. Has capacity to build union on a firm, truthful foundation - not one on false peace and illusion - becoming the woman that evokes clarity, leadership and integrity - not through expectation but from deep devotion to truth and divine order.

stops carrying the weight of her lineages pain, her mothers wounds, her fathers absence and starts living as a sovereign woman. Loving as woman - no longer as the wound. 

has healed her relationship with men - no longer projecting her past pain from her lineage, her father, past lovers and other experiences onto the man in front of her. She is capable of truly feeling and meeting the masculine - receptive to his care, service, love and sword of truth - capable of building union with him.

has opened wide & reclaimed her feminine vitality and sexuality, learnt to lean into masculine love - embodying the mature, claimable & devotional woman that lives within. 

has cleared her body, her womb - and feels ready emotionally and physically to become/be mother to children - knowing she has capacity to love them, nourish them - because she is now nourished.